Tuesday, May 15, 2012
You can picture it.
You're sitting at a family gathering, maybe dinner or a barbeque...
And he starts telling that same old story.
You know, the one you've heard a million times and know every single word.
There's one in every family, it's that person who tells the same old stories. It probably drives you crazy. You probably think twice about inviting him. But you do and you listen to the stories again and again.
Well, I started asking myself. Why is he stuck in his story? How is it serving him? And if it's a terrible story, why does he keep telling it?
People do get stuck in their stories, but they are always serving some purpose. And it's really worth figuring out what that is.
Sometimes we get stuck in a story because it reminds us of something bad that happened. Why would we do that? So that it serves to fuel our fear about doing what we really want. When we can recall a bad consequence for taking action, then it justifies us in not taking action.
But don't worry. Here's the good news.
You can ALWAYS change your story. No, it doesn't mean rewriting history or somehow forgetting the negative stuff.
What it means is focusing on what works, how we have been courageous and how we can feel empowered, even after experiencing something negative.
It's not the bad stuff that happens that counts, it's what we've done with it, how we have responded, what happened next.
|Lisa Bloom, PCC|
Lisa Bloom, PCC is founder of Story Coach Inc. and the Certified Story Coach Program. Download her ebook ‘Using Stories to Get Great Clients’ at http://www.story-coach.com.