Tuesday, March 1, 2011
Posted on Tuesday, March 01, 2011 by International Coach Federation
- How do you bring yourself into presence in a coaching conversation?
- Where do you subtly disconnect, making your client an object upon which you act?
- What might open in your coaching conversations through sensing?
When the human is present, available, in relationship, the horse responds. When the human is disconnected from herself, anxious without acknowledging it, or seeing the horse as an object or something to be manipulated, then the horse loses interest or moves away.
I experienced this with Karen and a huge powerful horse named Ceili. Being in the ring was complex for me; I have anxiety about horses from a scary experience when I was young. I wanted to be good at this horse thing. I wanted Ceili to come to me, and was afraid he wouldn't.
Posted by Doug Silsbee, PCC, author of The Mindful Coach, and leader of the ICF-approved Presence-Based Coaching training program. For other posts, or to comment on this one, visit http://dougsilsbee.com/blog/horses.